Wednesday, November 25, 2015

Thanksgiving 2015

Today (Wednesday, Nov. 25, 2015) is day 33 of 33 days without a day off.  I’ve been counting down the days to Thanksgiving because Thanksgiving will be that glorious, long-awaited day off.  That day when I can sleep when I need to, eat when and what I want, and generally just take care of me away from the stresses of the past month.  I thought this week would be a time to reflect on my blessings, and it is, but the listing of those looks a little different than I expected.  

This short month has been packed with both joy and heartache.  

On October 28th, I signed the membership book at Unity Church-Unitarian, and I told the world about that decision in this blog post at Exploring Sainthood.  I’m thankful for the people of Unity, for their love and support and welcome. I’m thankful for people who understand how difficult this situation is and who have my back.  I’m thankful for my Mormon friends and family who may not fully understand why this is necessary for me, but have shown their commitment to love me, even if they do not understand.  

November 5, new LDS policies about same-sex marriage and children of people in same-sex relationships were leaked to the world.  I’m not going into details of that here.  A google search will provide more information and commentary than you could ever want.  I will say that it hurt.  It hurt deeply.  It hurt many people, LGBT and allies, deeply.  I’m not thankful for those policies, or even the clarifications given a week later that mean that the policies will affect fewer people.  I am grateful for the fierce love that has risen from the ashes.  I’m grateful for people who reached out to those in pain and made a difference. 

I want the history books to include this detail: When this policy was leaked to the public, my Facebook feed was filled with good people, mostly Mormons, letting the gay community know their phones would be on all night, that they could call, could reach out, in case any of them were thinking of taking their own lives.

I’m grateful for a gay friend in pain who shared how friends had left a plate of cookies telling him that he was always welcome in their pew.  

Sometimes all it takes is some cookies and milk, and Jesus is suddenly there with you.

I’m grateful for those people who are still reaching out and still comforting and loving. I’m grateful for those who have listened to hundreds of stories of pain, have held that pain, and transformed it into loving action.  

I’m grateful for people who tell their stories in the hopes of helping others. Read this beautiful story.  

I’m grateful that I was asked to participate twice in the Ingathering of New Members on November 8th. Lisa knew that I would be singing with Women’s Ensemble at the 4:30 service.  She asked if I would participate then in addition to the 9am service because she didn’t have many people for the 4:30 and it’s always easier to stand up in front of the congregation if you are not feeling so alone and exposed.  

What she didn’t know was how much I needed that second time through.  The LDS policy story broke on Nov. 5.  I spent all day Nov. 6 and 7 at MN NATS student auditions, where most of my time was at the registration desk, greeting students and teachers, and being positive even though I wanted to just sit in a corner and cry.  NATS weekend wears me out when it’s just NATS I’m dealing with.  With that exhaustion and the emotional stress of the weekend, I was a mess Sunday morning.  It took everything I had to just hold it together and get through those words.  I had to go numb.  I couldn’t let myself think about what it meant to me to really be a part of Unity.  I had practiced reading the words out loud at home and I couldn’t get through it without ending up in tears.  So I went numb for the 9am service.  I got through it, but I wasn’t there.  By 4:30, I was in a better place.  I could speak those words with meaning.  I could speak them, listen to them, and love them, without the painful tears about the whole Mormon situation.  

I’m grateful for the smiling faces of my friends that I saw in both services as I looked out into the congregation.  

I’m grateful that after the service, Rob asked if I was interested in leadership opportunities.  And I’m grateful that even before I had a chance to respond Janne chimed in with, “Give her a chance to breathe.” At Unity, they see what I need and how I can contribute, but they also respect that when and how I step into those opportunities are very personal, complicated decisions in my life right now.  I’m thankful for that balance.  

I’m thankful for words and music that speak to my heart as if they were written for me.  The world is far too complex a place for me to believe that it was only for me, that sermons and music written, chosen, and prepared far in advance were about my needs.  What I do believe is that when I allow myself to be open, I hear and see what I need in whatever is placed before me.  Especially as I was able to let go of the numbness, the services on Nov. 8 provided much needed beauty and light and insight.  

On Nov. 11, I attended a choir concert celebrating 10 years of the Unity Singers.  The words and music shared there were also healing.  As a bonus, a friend and I had an email exchange that reminded me about why I do what I do. was an important reminder that we can never know who we're touching or what anyone who hears us is carrying, a reminder that when we sing, we hold souls in our hands.

My friend's words reminded me of these messages:

The world needs you. Now, the world may not exactly realize it, but wow, does it need you. It is yearning, starving, dying for you and your healing offer of service through your Art. We need you to help us understand that which is bigger than ourselves, so that we can stop feeling so small, so isolated, so helpless that, in our fear, we stop contributing that which is unique to us: that distinct, rare, individual quality which the world is desperately crying out for and eagerly awaiting. We need you to remind us what unbridled, unfiltered, childlike exuberance feels like, so we remember, without apology or disclaimer, to laugh, to play, to FLY and to stop taking EVERYTHING so damn seriously. We need you to remind us what empathy is by taking us deep into the hearts of those who are, God forbid, different than us – so that we can recapture the hope of not only living in peace with each other, but THRIVING together in a vibrant way where each of us grows in wonder and joy. We need you to make us feel an integral PART of a shared existence through the communal, universal, forgiving language of music, of dance, of poetry and Art – so that we never lose sight of the fact that we are all in this together and that we are all deserving of a life that overflows with immense possibility, improbable beauty and relentless truth. Joyce DiDonato

If we were a medical school, and you were here as a med student practicing appendectomies, you'd take your work very seriously because you would imagine that some night at two AM someone is going to waltz into your emergency room and you're going to have to save their life. Well, my friends, someday at 8 PM someone is going to walk into your concert hall and bring you a mind that is confused, a heart that is overwhelmed, a soul that is weary. Whether they go out whole again will depend partly on how well you do your craft. 

You're not here to become an entertainer, and you don't have to sell yourself. The truth is you don't have anything to sell; being a musician isn't about dispensing a product, like selling used cars. I'm not an entertainer; I'm a lot closer to a paramedic, a firefighter, a rescue worker. You're here to become a sort of therapist for the human soul, a spiritual version of a chiropractor, physical therapist, someone who works with our insides to see if they get things to line up, to see if we can come into harmony with ourselves and be healthy and happy and well. 

Frankly, ladies and gentlemen, I expect you not only to master music; I expect you to save the planet. If there is a future wave of wellness on this planet, of harmony, of peace, of an end to war, of mutual understanding, of equality, of fairness, I don't expect it will come from a government, a military force or a corporation. I no longer even expect it to come from the religions of the world, which together seem to have brought us as much war as they have peace. If there is a future of peace for humankind, if there is to be an understanding of how these invisible, internal things should fit together, I expect it will come from the artists, because that's what we do. As in the concentration camp and the evening of 9/11, the artists are the ones who might be able to help us with our internal, invisible lives.
Karl Paulnack

I am thankful for what music brings to my life, and I'm thankful that I can make a difference in the world through my music.

Just as I was starting to think that healing from the pain of the LDS policy mess was possible, the world was hit with a wave of violence.  I heard about Paris first, but it was neither the first nor the last.  And again, I saw responses of both fear and love.  We were talking about the Syrian refugees again, but there were and are deep divides.  Do we help them, or do we protect ourselves?  Do those two things need to be mutually exclusive? 

And then, late at night, the night before I was to sing the words, “Can you hear my cries?  Can you see my eyes? I am calling out to you,” at two church services focused on the story of the Good Samaritan, I received an email that made me doubt that anyone could hear or see me or the people that I loved that were hurting.  We were supposed to sing at 9, rehearse with the choir between services, and then sing again at 11.  At 6:30, I emailed the director to let her know that I was planning to be there, but that if I disappeared after the first service, it was because I couldn’t get through it without melting into a puddle of messy tears.  As always, she was kind and supportive, and let me know that it was OK to do what I needed to do to take care of me.  I’m grateful that she knows me and that she understands.  And I’m grateful for the music.  The music (choir and hymns) brought me the strength I needed to get through.  There were short moments of distraction, but I was able to get through all of church mostly focused, and without tears.

I wish I could say that the tears are done, but they’re not, and they never will be.  I might have had one day without tears this month.  I’m not absolutely sure.  They were not always tears of pain and grief.  Sometimes they were tears of love or joy.  Some days bring both kinds of tears.

The nation now knows of the Black Lives Matter occupation happening at the 4th precinct in Minneapolis.  They’ve been there for more than a week.  People I know have been been there.  Teenagers (and others) from my congregation have been there.  I’m thankful for their strength and courage.  I’m grateful for people willing to stand up and expose injustice.  I’m thankful for those working so hard to keep this a peaceful protest.  It has not been an event without violence (5 people were shot Monday night), but I know that there are people working to keep this peaceful.  I’m thankful for friends like this one willing to stand in the middle and listen to both sides.  

So, as I approach Thanksgiving 2015, I’m thankful that in just a few hours, I will have time for self-care.  Three and a half glorious days to pull myself back together.  To rest.  To regroup.  And then to step back into a world that needs so much healing and do what I can to make a difference.  I am grateful for the gifts of love and compassion and empathy, even with the pain and tears they bring to my life.  My heart has been and will continue to be broken.  I am grateful that my heart is being broken open and not shattered.  (See Parker Palmer post below for more about what this means.)

Now go read these two beautiful posts by writers that I love, whose words I'm always thankful for.  

Heartbreak and Hope:  Three Questions about Suffering by Parker Palmer
Childish Things by Catherine Larsen

Saturday, November 14, 2015

Trees and people and churches

In Minnesota, it's hard to go anywhere without seeing trees.  This fall has been great for watching the the changes.  Each drive provides new beauty. My drive to tai chi this morning also helped me to see some truths about people in general and more specifically about churches.

I first noticed the conifers, still and always green, broad at the base and rising to a single focused point.

Then of course, I noticed all the different varieties of deciduous trees, those that change so dramatically as we cycle through the seasons.  I saw their sturdy trunks reaching towards the sky and then branching, reaching up and out in every direction, as if to embrace as much of the world as they could.  Many are completely bare now, having let go of all their leaves. They've retreated into themselves to be still, to be safe, and to wait for spring.

But not all the deciduous trees are completely bare.  Some are still fighting fiercely to hold on to those last few yellow and brown leaves.  I passed several weeping willows.  Although there were leaves on the ground beneath them, those willows - those weeping willows - still held most of their slightly green but yellowing leaves.  Because they still hold their leaves from which raindrops fall like tears, perhaps they wept the most in the rains of the last week.

Which tree is best?  Which is most beautiful?

The truth is that no one tree could sustain this rich ecosystem.  All of their gifts are needed.  The bare branches are no less beautiful than the evergreens.

The Lambs Who Have No Names

The last 10 days have been rough.   First, I held the pain of my brothers and sisters as LGBT Mormons, their families, and allies dealt with the shock and despair surrounding the new policies about LGBT families in the Mormon church. My heart broke hearing one of my heroes declare that she felt like her dream had died, and that we needed to mourn that lost dream.  

Every hour has been filled with sorrow, to the point that I could barely stay focused on my work when I was with students, and accomplished little when there were no demands and needs of people right in front of me to attend to.   

I’m not so sure that time heals, but eventually, we are able to return to something resembling “normal” life.  I was almost to the point of being semi-functional, when the next wave (Paris) knocked me off my feet.  I felt the pain of Paris, and that ripped open the newly forming scars of the Mormon policy situation.  But this time, I was at least in a physical place where I could find some solace in music.

These two songs kept returning to my mind.  

For everyone born, a place at the table

In the midst of pain, I choose love.  

This is what I am called to do.  This is who I am.  I CHOOSE LOVE. 

This morning I read a FB post from a friend.  He told the story of the good shepherd, leaving the ninety and nine to go after that one.  He went on to explain that if we want to find Jesus, he will be up on the mountain with the lambs who have no name.  I couldn’t get that image out of my head. 

There are children (however few the church claims this will affect) whose names will not be recorded in the records of the church, without regards to how much some same-sex parents may actually want that.  That is what my friend was referring to, but I think the idea is so much bigger.  When people don’t have faces or names, when they are just a group of people that we have judged in any way, we are shutting them out.  When we refuse to hear the truth in their stories because they make us uncomfortable, we are shutting out those lambs.  We erase their names and blur their faces.  We make them Other. 

No more.  They are not Other.  Every one of them has a name.  Every one of them has a face.  Every one of them carries a pain or a burden.  We are inseparably connected, whether we want to admit it or not.  

We are not Other.  Every one of us has a name.  Every one of us has a face.  Every one of us carries a pain or burden.  WE ARE ONE. 

When you hear their stories, when you look into their eyes, when you see the child of God standing in front of you, you can’t deny the pain.  I can’t deny the pain.  I have to be there tending to the lost and broken.  I need you there tending to my lostness and brokenness.  

When you can feel what I feel,
When you know what I know,
When their pain becomes yours
And your tears begin to flow,
That is the beginning of Love. 

Friday, June 26, 2015

Distracted, but Writing Anyway

Writing is the way I process things.  It's how I learn and how I figure out what I really know.

Writing is nourishment.  It feeds my soul.  It clears my head.  It energizes me.

Writing is spiritual practice.  It makes me focus on what is really important, on what I need to do and understand to continue on my spiritual journey.

But lately, I've been distracted.  I've still been writing.  I write every morning.  But it's been more brain dump that exploration.  More to-do list than insight.

The kind of writing I really need to do, what I crave right now, is hard to do when time is limited, or I'm feeling anxious and stressed, or when there are other big emotional issues (good and bad) to deal with.

My 10 days of tai chi workshop and travel, immediately followed by a day of MMTA convention presentation and performance kept me super focused on the present.  Those activities used all my brain power and energy, and all the other stuff in my life took a back seat.  Once I got home, reality hit me hard.  There was no escape from the massive to do list and the anxiety and stress related to money and my work situations.  I wanted to write.  I needed to write.  But my brain just couldn't get there.

Last week I couldn't even find words to express how I felt about what had happened in Charleston. Once again, music came through to give me some outlet.  (If you like the song, the link to the PDF of the sheet music is in the YouTube comments.)

But all I could do was listen, and read, and mourn.  I couldn't write.

Today is my day off.  I have a huge list of writing projects I wanted to tackle.  But I slept in and then checked Facebook before jumping into my writing.  And once again, I'm distracted, but this time by love, joy, and celebration.  I doubt I'll get as much writing done today as I had hoped, but starting with this post, I am doing something.  And that's good.

This weekend, I process, feed my soul, and do some deep spiritual work. Some of it may be shared. Some might end up filed away under the bed. Distracted or not, the time for writing is now.

Friday, May 22, 2015

Where I Am and Where I'm Headed

This year has been one of my most difficult, but also one of the most beautiful and growth-filled years of my life.  The story didn't just start suddenly one day almost a year ago. This story began at least 33 years ago, possibly longer ago than that.  I felt alone and defective because faith, prayer, revelation, and probably many other things didn't work for me the way they did for everyone else at church.

The roots of the story are old, but the latest chapter began one day, almost a year ago when I realized that I needed a change if I was to move out of this stuck, painful place.

I'm writing today because of the memories brought up when I read this.  So many of the words of Sara's journal entries reminded me of what I felt that week.

But when someone is excommunicated (that’s the expected outcome) for believing something I believe and saying it boldly when I’ve said it somewhat timidly, it’s not good and it certainly doesn’t make me feel that I’m wanted.
And here Kate was, a rare (though not unique) example of being bold and direct, someone who was showing RADICAL SELF-RESPECT by using her voice and saying that her experience matters. Her example was encouraging, and maybe she didn’t always say the right thing in the best way, but she was trying and she was insisting on being heard. It helped other women raise their own voices. And for her to be excommunicated sends that “Be quiet, keep your questions to yourself” message. And we get that message.
I’m not Kate Kelly. I don’t know her very well. But I feel tied to her in this MoFem sisterhood. And it feels like this is, by extension, a warning to or an attack on my community. Like we’re all supposed to shut up. And maybe part of my sadness comes from knowing how tempted I am to shut up, how easy that is for me and also how soul-killing it is in the long run.

Like Sara, I too needed to take a break.  It wasn't just about this particular event, but this was the straw that broke the camel's back.  I didn't know for sure where this break would lead, but I knew that to stay meant spiraling into more and more pain.  I knew (and told my bishop as much) that if there was any hope of me ever fully committing to the LDS church (meaning full activity, temple recommend worthy, and actually going to the temple) that I needed some time and space to sort things out.  I took the summer off, and Sundays became my self-care day.

Then in September I actually did something I've wanted to do for a very long time.  I attended my first service at Unity Church-Unitarian.  The original plan was to attend services there during the month of September and then re-evaluate.  September was extended to Christmas.  Then I decided to extend this exploration through June, and joined Women's Ensemble, one of the amazing choral ensembles there. Unity Church has been a place of safety and healing and much needed peace in my life.  You can read more about my experiences in some of the posts of this blog and at Exploring Sainthood.

The plan was to get through June, and then see what my time at Unity meant.  Had it been just a short-term arrangement focused on healing and reframing and getting the tools to return to Mormonism in a healthier way? Would I choose to align myself with the Unitarian Univeralists instead of the LDS Church?   Would I choose to live some complicated life somewhere between the two?

The question of how and to what extent I will maintain my relationship with the Mormon church is still a little up in the air.  I'm not ready to leave for good.  There are people and ideas there that I need in my life.  I feel like my voice is needed, if for no other reason than to let people that are feeling lost and alone know that there is someone else that doesn't fit the model of the perfect Mormon.  But I have to find strategies for engaging in a healthy way.  In July and August, I'm planning to start going to my ward again.  I'll alternate weeks between my LDS and UU congregations. (I wish I could do both, but my ward meets 9-12 and there is only one service at Unity in the summer and it starts at 10.) I'm working on carving out time to prepare myself for each LDS service in a way that will help me to see and hear the best, and  more easily let go of the things that hurt me.

Although I don't really identify as a Pagan, many of the words of this Pagan UU seemed so similar to my own experiences when I first began my explorations of the Unitarian Universalist tradition.  

As the congregation sings, my hardened heart softens and I find my self singing , the sense of divinity is palpable, I am confused, here among the trappings of organized religion I am connected to divinity.
As the service progresses it is evident that the words spoken from the minister value diversity, compassion and social justice. I am engaged, the sense that the Goddess is present is nearly ecstatic, and my confusion deepens.
As I walk away I have one of the moments that I so cherish in my life, insight into my own preconceptions about religious identity flow from my core self. The questions are profound. For how many years have I excluded the worship practices of others from my personal practice? Why has my engagement in interfaith activities always centered on “working with” people of other faiths instead of “worshiping with” those that simply call divinity by another name?
Today I embrace both may Pagan identity and my membership in the UU church. It has always been my belief that all paths lead to divinity, I was just never aware how walking more than one path at a time can so clarify the divine’s intention to hold all humanity as sacred.

Recent services and interactions with the members and staff of Unity Church-Unitarian have made me certain that Unity is my spiritual home, the place I can go to for nourishment, peace, healing, and safety.  It is a place where I can be challenged and stretched and bathed in beauty and love.  Although many members of the congregation would not consider themselves Christian, it is in the lives of these people that I see the core of what I consider being Christian to be.  I have no plans to give any of that up.  All my long-terms plans are being made with my involvement at Unity in mind.  I'm not yet officially joining the church by signing the membership book, but I am committing to this community in every other way.

It's been a rough year, but it's be a beautiful year that I wouldn't trade for anything.  I am in a better place.  I'm clearer about who I am and what I want.  I am happy and spiritually engaged like I have never been before. My heart has been broken open.  And that's a good thing.
If you hold your knowledge of self and world wholeheartedly, your heart will at times get broken by loss, failure, defeat, betrayal, or death. What happens next in you and the world around you depends on how your heart breaks. If it breaks apart into a thousand pieces, the result may be anger, depression, and disengagement. If it breaks open into greater capacity to hold the complexities and contradictions of human experience, the result may be new life. (page 18 in Parker J. Palmer's Healing the Heart of Democracy)
And although didn't expect it, these words the Hilary Weeks song, "Beautiful Heartbreak", beautifully describe this past year.  

I never dreamed my heart would make it
And I thought about turning around
But Heaven has shown me miracles
I never would have seen from the ground
Every fear, every doubt, all the pain I went through
Was the price that I paid to see this view
Now that I'm here I would never trade
The grace that I feel and the faith that I find
Through the bittersweet tears and the sleepless nights
I used to pray He'd take it all away
But instead it became
A beautiful heartbreak

one by one 
they throw us from the tower
and we spread our wings
and fly
-linda sillitoe

Saturday, May 16, 2015

Lessons from Shared Loves

I'm doing The Artist's Way program with a few online friends.  I've owned the book for years and read it, but have never really done all the work.  One of the activities asked me to identify a favorite childhood movie.  I couldn't really think of any movies from my childhood, but 3 from my early teens came to mind:  Yentl, Enemy Mine, and Star Trek 2:  The Wrath of Khan.  Once again, I was reminded how much these movies and their themes have shaped my life.  A love of science fiction is one of the things that my dad and I share.  Music and Barbra Streisand are the connections with my mother.  

I've written before about what Star Trek taught me (You can read some of that here and here and here.) Enemy Mine was a box office failure, costing millions more to make than it actually earned.  I don't think I saw it in the theatre.  We probably rented the VHS (and the machine to watch it on).  The trailer looks cheesy (it was sci-fi in the 80's), but this movie had a huge impact on my life.  Bitter enemies are forced to depend on each other.  They learn to understand and trust each other.  And one puts his life on the line to keep a promise he made about a child of the enemy that he has grown to love.  It reinforced every beautiful lesson I'd learned from my parents about seeing people for who they really are and keeping promises.

Yentl is a beautiful story about a woman who refuses to be limited by her culture and tradition.  It's Streisand singing the songs of Alan and Marilyn Bergman and Michel Legrand.

This morning, I'm sitting here crying as I listened to these words that seem written just for me and just for this moment.

And tell me where, where is it written what it is
I'm meant to be, that I can't dare-
To find the meanings in the mornings that I see,
Or have my share of every sweet-imagined possibility?

I remember everything you taught me
Every book 1've ever read...
Can all the words in all the books
Help me to face what lies ahead?

I can open doors and take from the shelves
All the books I’ve longed to hold
I can ask all the questions,
The whys and the wheres
As the mysteries of life unfold
Like a link in a chain
From the past to the future
That joins me with the children yet to be,
I can now be a part
Of the ongoing stream,
That has always been a part of me!

The more I live - the more I learn.
The more I learn - the more I realize
The less I know.
Each step I take -
(Papa, I've a voice now!)Each page I turn -
(Papa, I've a choice now!)Each mile I travel only means
The more I have to go.
What's wrong with wanting more?
If you can fly - then soar!
With all there is - why settle for
just a piece of sky?

I don't expect people to understand the growth process I'm going through right now or the choices I'm making related to it.  But I do want people to understand that it is beautiful and soul-stretching.  I feel more spiritually alive than I can remember ever feeling.  This is not stepping away from the teachings of my youth.  It's stepping into them and living them fully, with integrity,  and without apology.

My mother also introduced me to the work of this wonderful woman.  Don't just read the excerpt.  Listen to the poet speak her own words.

I face the plains
On a good day for walking.
The sun rises
And the mist clears.
I will be all right:
My people were Mormon pioneers.

Saturday, February 7, 2015

A Few Thoughts on Religious Freedom

As I mentioned in this post, discussions about religious freedom can be tricky.  It's hard to know where to draw the line.  Today I read two articles that made me want to stand up and cheer.  These are people that understand what religious freedom is about.  Please read the full articles, not just the quotes I selected to include here.

This piece published in the Star Tribune pretty much sums up how I feel about the religious freedom vs. gay rights debate.

I am a lover religious liberty (it is one of our central tenants), and I would fight tooth and nail to keep the state from forcing people to perform religious practices that are contrary to their faiths. However, religious practice cannot trump the basic legal rights of citizens in this great country. I agree with the LDS Church that we must balance religious freedom with securing the rights of our citizenry. However, it is these basic civil rights that are really being attacked, not religious freedom.   
Rev. Curtis L. Price is pastor of the First Baptist Church of Salt Lake City.
And this woman understands what religious freedom is really about. When I grow up, I want to be Katrina Lantos Swett.

She explains that despite the words “religious freedom” in the group’s name, the commission is dedicated to a singular mission: defending human rights.
“We work aggressively on behalf of agnostics and atheists who are being persecuted. We will go anywhere people face punishment for professing their humanist beliefs, or for their lack of belief in a deity,” Swett said. “We defend every person’s right to live life according to the dictates of his or her own conscience.”

History, Swett said, has taught her that one person’s fight can lead the way for the rest of the world.
“When we fight for religious freedom or protection from brutal punishment, these are not abstract fights,” she said. “We’re fighting for real men and women suffering real horrors at the hands of brutal and authoritarian forces. We win, one victory at a time.”